Do cats grieve for the loss of another cat?
If so, how can we best help our kitties to cope?
One of our readers had to have one of her cats put to sleep. She asked for some advice about helping her cats get over the recent loss of that cat.
Her cats were not acting right and not eating. I reached out to our readers on Facebook and asked them for help so that together, we could help this cat loving family as well as future readers.
Hundreds came out in support of our reader. There were many sad stories of cats who had passed and the remaining cats having a difficult time adjusting and coping.
Many of the stories were very similar, indicating that cats feel deeply for the loss of their companions, both animal and human. I've collected the best ideas on helping your cat to cope, and put them on this page. Thanks to all who contributed!
Here's the question our reader in need asked on the Facebook page:
Here's the Facebook post...
First, my thoughts:
In my experience, cats can experience depression and definitely can mourn the loss of a housemate. Some become more aloof, others more clingy and needy. Sometimes they'll go off food for a while or seem to sulk, or just aren't quite themselves.
From my perspective, the short answer to how to help grieving cats is to give lots of love, have patience, and meet their needs as best you can.
Give them time to grieve. Give them space if they seem to need it. Give them more love and attention if they seem to need it, and distract them with play/exercise, toys and stinky food (or whatever their favorite food is).
For example, if tuna works, use that. If treats work, use that. Some cats love sardines. Sprinkling tuna water on some dry cat food sometimes works. It just depends on what your cats like.
For play/exercise, try an interactive wand/fishing pole type toy like Da Bird (or whatever their favorite toy is). Get a couple of cardboard boxes and buy some new "throw around" toys like crinkle balls (or whatever they like).
Leave one box open so they can jump in an out. Seal up the second box and cut a hole in it on the side so they can go in and out. Throw some of the new ball-type toys into each box.
Paper bags are a big favorite of many cats as well, or a new scratching post might help.
In extreme cases, anti-depressants may be required. Feliway is a good alternative to medication and I'd try that first.
Next: Below are the summaries of the collective wisdom from our Facebook audience...
More playtime and distractions...
Try baby food...
Based on the collective experience of our readers, cats definitely do grieve for the loss of a companion, even across species (some readers mentioned that their cats mourned the loss of bunnies, dogs and humans).
There were some stories of kitties that started to become upset when their housemate became ill or was about to die. This has been reported with respect to humans who are near death as well, such as in the case of Oscar the therapy cat.
None of this should be a surprise to anyone who knows how emotional cats can be, but it's interesting (and helpful, I believe) to see it confirmed.
I hope that the advice here offered by our community helps you and your cat to work through your grief after a loss.
Sometimes people have difficulty adjusting and coping with the loss of a pet as well. If that's you, please reach out to someone who can give you support.
Some readers have taken comfort in the responses they get from our community, and many have said that simply posting a cat memorial has helped.
Below are a couple of products that may help to ease your cat's stress.