Will my cat ever become less skittish?
I am a new cat owner. I am 19 years old and adopted a 10 week old kitten who was once feral at the end of June. When I visited her at the shelter she wouldn't even come near the glass. I would walk up to it and she would run away.
When they opened the glass and I put my hand in, she ran away as far as she could, never letting me get too close. I didn't blame her, she was only 10 weeks and had already gotten all of her shots and was spayed.
I decided to adopt her because I know most people want to adopt a cute cuddly kitten they can play with and I knew she had potential, she was just traumatized from being feral.
So I took her home and for the first three to four days she wouldn't come out of hiding, eat/drink, or go to the bathroom (and yes she was litter box trained).
Now, I'm an anxious person so I was really worried but she finally came out of her shell and I never knew I would be so happy to have a cat finally poop!
Now, almost 7 months later, she is doing so much better! She cuddles with me and lets me hold her and plays and does everything basically "normal", however, she tends to get aggressive.
She still hides from people she doesn't know (which is pretty normal for a cat from what I hear) and also swats, scratches, and even bites. Is this type of aggression normal?
I'll just be calmly petting her and she will turn around and scratch and bite me. When she does this, I let out a high pitch, cat-sounding ow and immediately stop petting her.
She still only lets me pick her up when she is in my room and doesn't allow me to pick her up anywhere else in the house. She was started to venture but very tentatively.
She has warmed up to me and my mom the most and that is basically it, even though she allows my sisters to pet her occasionally (before she scratches and bites them!)
I don't know what to do at this point! Will she continue to gradually get better like she has
been? Am I doing something wrong? Can I be doing something more?
Additionally, I recently just took her away in the car on a three hour trip to my lake house. We were there for a few days and the first day she hid and didn't eat or go to the bathroom but by the end of the night she was eating some dry food and coming out to investigate. She also went to the bathroom the next day, obviously adjusting much faster.
However, to get her there it took me more than an hour just to get her into her carrier and I had to hold her while she was leashed to the inside of her carrier the whole way.
When she was in the carrier she wouldn't stop meowing and shaking and panting and I got nervous-once I took her out she was much better, climbing around on me, looking out the window and even went back into her carrier and slept the rest of the way, with the top open.
Against my better judgement, I left her there for an extra day with my mom because I had to go somewhere for the night. It took my mom over two hours to get her into the carrier because she hides under the bed and it is impossible to get her out.
She got her out a few times and tried to grab her (kind of squeezing her by accident) but she escaped and became petrified, shaking.
So, my mom finally had my uncle come over the house (my cat is terrified of men) and took a coat hanger and didn't hit her with it but waved it in her general direction and she was so terrified that she backed up until her butt was out from under the bed and my mom scooped her up.
She clung to my mom and even let her put her in the carrier she was so terrified. Did this traumatize her??
She will be riding in her carrier for three hours to get home. I have anxiety and when it comes to my kitten it gets pretty bad and I worry.
Am I worrying too much? Am I doing something wrong?
Will she ever become less skittish? Am I traumatizing her?? Please help!